The way you tell your story,

CAN MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE.

Specialties

I Care…

ABOUT LOVE, PEACE, TRUTH, PURITY, HUMANITY AND MOTHER NATURE

 Live by the truth

OF ALL THAT IS YOU!

require no less of yourself. don’t just do what others expect you to do, follow the path of your deepest truth. love is not about pleasing others, love is about you being yourself. you are loved and worthy not for what you do but just for being you.

Love & Truth

ARE TO BE HONOURED AND CELEBRATED!

What we are mostly longing for in life, is to feel free and authentic.

to be who we are and to see that reflected, true love!

Superpower

ALWAYS BELIEVE IN MAGIC AND SURPRISES!

Lilo is specialized in combining both modern and authentic techniques, in an unique AUTHENTIC, innovative way. This allows each visual to become a "one-of-a-kind" piece. She uses a raw but refined mix of techniques, such as photography, pencil drawing, digital illustration, paint, body paint and poetry.

Love is my religion

I”m a lover and a fighter, a warrior, surviver.

strong and sensitive,

an example of life and it’s natural gifts.

Ill have the courage to walk straight,

heal my wounds and fears with faith.

I am bigger then pain, I am stronger then shame.

sending kisses to rejection in the form of

RESSURECTION

Silence

take some time to Listen to silence, to connect with your true self, listening to your inner voice. always helps. I can recommend you to meditate and pray, on a daily basis to keep your spirit high. 

Obey

ALL OF MY GRAtITUdE AND WORSHIP GOES TO THE GREATNESS OF WHAT I REFER TO AS THE HOLINESS, GLORY AND PURITY OF THE GREAT I AM, JESUS, NATURE, LOVE

Higher education

The highest education is not on paper, it is life itself.

THE HIGHEST VALIDATION IS NOT MONEY, IT IS LOVE

LET’S CHANGE THE BLACK AND WHITE INTO

PriMary Colors

Facing the truth

Don’t let your shame, pride or shyness get in the way, of what it is you truly want, and all that you can be. Lay your truth on the table, look it straight in the eye and pick a seat not a side, we are human family!

We think we know who we are or what we want to be, but a lot of times truth get’s in our way. Sometime’s we lie to ourselves when things get hard. About little and big things, to live up to a certain standard/ image. Sometimes we lie to get what we want. We lie to ourselves hiding insecurities, imperfections, feelings we don’t want to feel, things we don’t want to see. Parts of ourselves that we deny or disapprove of, sometimes we lie to please others.

We lie to ourselves because we want to feel safe, comfortable, afraid of being judged or doing it wrong. Afraid of hurt(ing ourselves or others). Or afraid to discover what’s really going on. Afraid of being alone, holding on to control, afraid of change of the unknown. Truth comes with consequences, painful or joyful. And even when it might hurt, truth will always make us stronger! Facing the truth is not easy but really damn important. it does not serve or help anybody to judge or deny any part of ourselves. repressing is not good for our health. It takes bravery and courage to honor yourself, to speak your truth when others are pressuring you not to. Nothing ever is exactly as it seems, we all have or did things that we are not proud of, or we wish we would have done differently. These experience brought us to where we needed to be and made us into the person that we are today.

TRUTH REVEALS WHO WE TRULY ARE, WHERE WE NEED TO GO AND WHAT IS MEANT TO BE. TRUTH BRINGS US PEACE IT SETS US FREE TO BE WHO WE WANT TO BE. BEING TRUE TO YOURSELF, KEEPING IT REAL IS BOLD AND INSPIRING! 

The luxury of basic needs

I’M LONGING FOR THE LUXURY OF SIMPLICITY AND PURITY

Nobody does it like you…

WE’RE THE GENERATION THAT’S LEADED BY VALIDATION BY WHAT’S GOOD OR NOT, UGLY OR HOT. WE’D KEEP COMPARING, CONTINUOUSLY STARING AT OTHERS THAT WE LIKE TO BE MEANTIME THE FASHION INDUSTRY PREYS ON OUR INSECURITIES. THE HERD INSTINCT OF FOLLOWING THE TRENDS ENDLESSLY, NEVER SEEMS TO END. IT’S REALLY IMPORTANT TO SHOW WE’RE THE MOST ORIGINAL CONSTANT NEWNESS, HIGH SPEED OF TRENDS MAKES IT IMPOSSIBLE TO STAY AHEAD. SO WE STAY GREEDY, DESPERATELY NEEDY AS WE KEEP SPENDING MONEY CLOSET FULL OF CLOTHES, BUT A NEW SEASON THERE’S ALWAYS A REASON, TO BUY MORE “I NEED NEW ITEMS, TO SHOW MY WELLBEING, TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT MYSELF. AS THEY EXPRESS WHO I AM, IDENTIFY MY STYLE TRANSLATED AS A FORM OF MY CREATIVITY, ORIGINALITY.” I NEED TO FOLLOW TRENDS TO BE ME? REALLY?? YOU ARE YOUR IDENTITY

YOU’RE NOT BORN TO BE ALWAYS IN NEED, JUST TO BE OR TO SHOW WHO YOU ARE.

AND IF IT’S ABOUT BEING REALLY CREATIVE OR ORIGINAL THEN SHOW NEW OUTFITS WITHOUT USING MONEY. SHOW A FLAWLESS STYLE WITHOUT ACTUALLY BUYING THAT’S WHAT I CALL CREATIVE & ORIGINAL. TRANSFORM YOUR CLOSET, OLD FASHION INTO NEW OUTFITS BETTER FOR THE ENVIRONMENT, YOUR WALLET AND YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE. CREATE YOUR OWN TRENDS, BE YOU AS YOU ARE, there is ONLY ONE OF YOU, YOU ARE ORIGINAl!

Supporting each other to Rise!

HAVING A NEGATIVE OPINION ABOUT SOMEONE IS ACTUALLY SAYING YOUR AFRAID OF THEM. NEGATIVITY IS A FORM OF DEFENSE. ATTACKING (VERBAL OR NON-VERBAL) IS SHOWING YOUR INSECURITY. VIOLENCE IS WEAKNESS. HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE, TIME TO BRAKE THE CHAINS OF PAIN, BLAME AND SHAME. CRITICIZING SEPARATES US, ADMIRATION BRINGS US CLOSER TOGETHER. AS WE DON’T SPEAK OUT WE WILL STAY CAPTIVE IN OUR PAIN, BLAME AND SHAME GAME. THINKING WHERE THE ONLY ONE, THE LONELY ONE.. LONELINESS IS THE ABSENCE OF BEING GENUINELY UNDERSTOOD. WE NEED HONEST AND VULNERABLE CONVERSATIONS, TRUTH BEHIND OUR COMFORT-ZONE. THERE IS NO MINE, NO YOURS EVERYTHING IS OURS. NO ONE IS “NORMAL” AND WE ALL HAVE TRIGGERS. SOMETIMES IT MIGHT BE HARD TO UNDERSTAND WHY SOMETHING SMALL CAN BE REALLY IMPORTANT TO SOMEONE, WHEN YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND THEIR HISTORY, THEIR VIEWPOINT, IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO HAVE COMPASSION WITH THEM. COMPASSION IS WHAT CREATES CONNECTION. CONNECTION CREATES UNDERSTANDING AND HEALING.

EVERYBODY'S EMOTIONS MAKE SENSE FROM THEIR PERSPECTIVE. WHEN YOU UNDERSTAND THEIR HISTORY, VALUES AND BELIEFS. 

WE NEED TO VALIDATE AND RESPECT EACH OTHERS OPINION. OPPOSING VIEWPOINTS NEED CLEAR CONVERSATIONS. WE NEED TRANSPARENCY IN ALL OUR RELATIONS. SOME EMOTIONS CAN BE HARD TO HAVE COMPASSION WITH. ANGER, HATE AND FEAR MIGHT BE THE MOST CHALLENGING. ANGER IS BASED ON HISTORIC THINGS OPPRESSION, EXCLUSION...  WOUNDS NOT ONLY COME FROM PARENTS, THEY ALSO COME FROM CULTURE. BUT BAD DOESN’T LOOK BAD WHEN THEIR IS GOOD IN IT.. FIND A FRESH PERSPECTIVE. FEEL INSPIRED AND ENCOURAGED TO USE YOUR SCARS AS A CATALYST. NO MATTER HOW DIFFICULT YOUR PAST EXPERIENCE HAVE BEEN OR CURRENTLY MIGHT BE YOU ALWAYS HAVE THE CHOICE WHAT YOU DO WITH IT. YOU CAN CHOOSE TO STAY A VICTIM, OR TO FACE WHATEVER IT IS AND TURN INTO SOMETHING HELPFUL. TO OVERCOME YOUR OBSTACLES AND INSPIRE OTHERS. PLEASE SPEAK OUT, MAKE A CHANGE! GIVE YOUR PAIN / SHAME A FUNCTION . SHARING IS CARING, DON’T LET IT BE FOR NOTHING! IT WILL HELP OTHERS WHO GO TROUGH SIMILAR THINGS. TIME TO CONNECT WITH COMPASSION AND (SELF)RESPECT. WHEN PEOPLE TALK OR SHARE THINGS FROM THEIR TRUE SELF, THEIR VULNERABLE PARTS, IT IS HEALING ITSELF. FOR YOU AND EVERY OTHER.

WE NEED A WORLD THAT IS FUNCTIONAL WITH WIN-WIN SCENARIO’S. WE ARE NOT IN COMPETITION, WE’RE IN THIS TOGETHER. SUPPORTING EACH OTHER TO RISE. IF I CAN SEE MYSELF IN YOU AND YOU CAN SEE YOURSELF IN ME, WE WILL BE FREE!

Inspiring quotes from Anne Frank

I have a dream…

“THAT ONE DAY THIS NATION WILL RISE UP AND LIVE OUT THE TRUE MEANING OF ITS CREED. WE HOLD THESE TRUTHS TO BE SELF-EVIDENT THAT ALL MEN ARE CREATED EQUAL”

-MARTIN LUTHER KING

True blood

195 countries in this world. We might have different nationalities, but no land marks our heart(s). We share the same blood colour, born on the same earth, (mother) nature, seeds from the same.. Holy Spirit (father)

People are people,

NOT A SKIN COLOR

Beauty, there is no temporary part…

BEAUTY COMES FROM THE HEART. BEAUTY LIES INSIDE OF YOU, BEAUTY IS WHEN YOU SPEAK YOUR TRUTH

BEAUTY DOES NOT CHANGE WITH AGE, WHAT CHANGES ARE “OUR OWN” EXPECTATIONS, JUDGMENTAL AND SURREAL VALIDATIONS. many of us ARE SO DESPERATE TO BE ACCEPTED, SO AFRAID OF REJECTION, THAT they are willing to DO “EVERYTHINg” TO FIT INTO THE UNFIT-TABLE NORM OF "PERFECTION". some of us ARE WILLING TO PAY LOTS OF MONEY, TO OPERATE, CUT IN HEALTHY BODY’S FILL IT UP WITH SILICONES, BOTOX, EASILY GO THROUGH A LOT OF PAIN, TO GET BIGGER LIPS, ASS OR TITS IN EXCHANGE, EVEN RISKING their OWN EXISTENCE.

PLEASE LOVE, DON’T LET YOUR MIND BE INFECTED BY NEGATIVE VALIDATIONS REJECTIONS, PROJECTIONS. MAKE SURE YOUR THOUGHTS ARE DEFEATED AND NO LONGER LEADED BY ANOTHER’S NORM OF ATTRACTION. SEE WRINKLES AS A POSITIVE SIGN OF EXPERIENCE AND WISDOM. IF THE INSECURITY STAYED OVER THE YEARS, IT IS TIME TO FACE YOUR INNER FEARS ACCEPTANCE STARTS WITH THE LOVE INSIDE, INSTEAD OF ALL THIS SUFFERING THE HEALTHY EVERLASTING SOLUTION IS IN YOUR MIND, NO OPERATION NEEDED WHEN YOU FEED IT

MEDITATE, REHABILITATE, FEED YOUR SOUL, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THE WAY YOU WERE BORN. NOT PERFECT OR IMPERFECT. YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE, BEAUTIFUL AND ALWAYS WORTH IT

 Your a Soul with a body

NOT A BODY WITH A SOUL

RIGHT FROM THE START YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN

A pure work of art!

it is a shame that we shame, making ourselves small. comparing (parts of) our body’s makes no sense, cause all we ever have is our own body. trough this body you are here you can feel you can be, you have meaning.

you might not like (parts of) the shape of your body, of what you have heard in the past or conditioned to think. choose to stop living up to a certain body-standard and start being yourself. you would not tell a friend that he/she is ugly or not good enough. please love, stop doing that to (parts of) yourself. look yourself in the eye and give yourself some friendly advice.

think of all the amazing things that your body provides you with. focus on the feeling of pleasurable sensations. see yourself as a work of art every line, wrinkle, spot or detail of you, is exactly the way you are supposed to be.right from the start you have always been a pure work of art!

 EVERYBODY YOU MEET

IS FIGHTING A BATTLE YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT

Be kind, always!

Sustainable self esteem

It is good to bring awareness to a subject that has a lot of taboo too it, but without realizing influences all our relationships, how we relate to one another and the planet. Self-esteem measured by performance. excluding and including people (parts of yourself) based upon image, reputation.

Reputation is what people who do not care about us think about us. It’s not poverty or illness that drive us crazy. It is the sense that we don’t mean anything outside of what we have been able to achieve. Many people include Financial wealth, seen as superior, honorable, successful, valued, appreciated, luxury. While they exculde financial poverty , seen as inferior, losers, failures, personal incompetent, nothing.

Depending your, or other people’s value on money, job-status, achievements, possessions, social status, (mental) health or education, keeps you stuck in the rat-race of (being ashamed) proving and chasing. trying to do anything to belong, to fit in.

Sometimes I hear people proudly talking about making “5k” or “25k”. It might be easy to talk about money when it is within you reach, if you already have a good income. Often there is a lot of shame and stigma involved when it comes to not being able to pay for something. As if it diminishes your personal value, seen as failure instead of “the reputation” of being someone. you rarely hear people talking about not being able to fulfill basic needs, able to pay for something. while there are Many many people around the world are struggeling to fulfill basic needs. if you have enough to provide, think about providing and helping other people instead of buying more material things, as a form of wealth, richness, love, JOY, luxury!

IF YOU ARE REALLY SECURE WITH YOURSELF YOU NO LONGER NEED TO PROVE YOUR VALUE BY SHOWING OF ON THE OUTSIDE. YOU FIND YOUR APPROVAL ON THE INSIDE. YOU DON’T NEED A LOT TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF. YOU JUST KNOW YOUR WORTHY BY BEING.

Real luxury is about love and (inner)peace

(MENTAL) HEALTH, BEING PROVIDED IN BASIC NEEDS, FEELING AND CONNECTION

Learn how to love yourself

MEANS GIVING UP CONTROL AND ACCEPT, THAT OTHERS' FEELINGS AND BEHAVIOR HAVE AND DID HAVE, NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. IT WILL BLOCK THE CYCLE OF SHAME AND MAKE SPACE FOR HEALING TO BE POSSIBLE. 

WHEN YOU LEARN HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF, you FORGIVE YOURSELF AND OTHERS FOR UNLOVING BEHAVIOR, THINGS THAT HURT YOU, OR MIGHT HAVE HURT SOMEONE ELSE (IN THE PAST) AND CHOOSE FORGIVENESS AND COMPASSION, TOWARDS YOURSELF AND OTHERS, OUT OF LOVE FOR YOURSELF.

GIVE UP YOUR ATTACHMENT TO CONTROL MEANS GIVING UP CHECKING WHATEVER IT IS  THAT YOU OR SOMEONE ELSE MIGHT “DID WRONG”, OR SCANNING FOR REASONS AND WAYS TO DEFEND YOURSELF. YOU WILL FINALLY LET GO OF WANTING TO KNOW WHY SOMEONE BEHAVED IN A CERTAIN WAY. YOU STOP TAKING THINGS PERSONALLY BECAUSE YOU SEE, THAT YOU ARE NOT IN CONTROL OF HOW OTHERS THINK, FEEL, OR BEHAVE.

WHEN YOU LOVE YOURSELF YOU TAP INTO YOUR OWN SOURCE OF TRUTH INSTEAD OF TURNING TO OTHERS FOR VALIDATION AND APPROVAL, OR SECOND-GUESSING YOURSELF 

YOU ARE WILLING TO COMPASSIONATELY FEEL YOUR CORE (PAINFUL) FEELINGS INSTEAD OF TRYING TO DISTRACT OR NUMB YOURSELF FROM THEM. YOU LET GO OF BLAMING, AND YOU HAVE LESS OF A NEED TO TURN TO UNHEALTHY ADDICTIONS LIKE UNHEALTHY FOOD, DRUGS OR ALCOHOL.

WHEN YOU LOVE YOURSELF YOU WANT TO TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF!

To be resilient

WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME SOMEONE TOLD YOU HOW IMPORTANT YOU ARE? WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU TOLD YOURSELF?

START FEELING INSTEAD OF NUMBING AND BLAMING AWAY HARD FEELINGS. know your the best we have! we, truly need you desperatEly. you alone are enough. stop numbing, TRYING TO ESCAPE THE UNCOMFORTABLENESS WITH ALCOHOL, DRUGS, OR SHOPPING, DENYING YOURSELF WONT GET YOU ANY FURTHER.. BREAK TROUGH, honor yourself! choose to feel all your feelings and refuse to be or stay a victim. use all setbacks and painful experiences to expand your depth, deepen your wisdom and become unstoppable in realizing your higher potential. show up out of love for yourself!

MANY (HU)MAN(S) STRUGGLE WHEN IT COMES TO EMOTIONAL INTERACTIONS HAVE YOU EVER BEEN TOLD BY SOMEONE THAT THEY COULDN’T FEEL OR CONNECT WITH YOU? YOU CAN’T CONNECT TO SOMEONE IF YOU AREN’T FIRST CONNECTED TO YOU. DEAR (HU)MAN, EVOLVE YOURSELF. FEELING ALL YOUR FEELINGS IS HARD, BUT THAT’S WHAT THEY’RE FOR. TO DEEPEN YOUR (SELF)TRUST AND INTIMACY AND BUILD REAL CONNECTIONS.

welcome whatever it is that you are feeling, ACCEPTING THOUGHTS, FEELINGS AND PHYSICAL SENSATIONS. Whenever you triggered or overwhelmed by emotion, choose to be resilient. try not to fix the feeling, BUT bring curiosity to it. TAKE OUT THE INNER STRUGGLE..  WE OFTEN PUT AN EXTRA LAYER OF HEAVINESS, RESISTANCE, NON-WILLINGNESS OR FEAR ON TOP OF WHAT WE EXPERIENCE. SOMETIMES THAT LAYER IS EVEN HEAVIER THAN THE ORIGINAL FEELINGS, THOUGHTS, OR SENSATIONS. ask yourself, how can this be a good thing?

when you say “hello or yes to what is, (difficult) thoughts feelings, situations, physical sensations, there will be room for what is already there, to be allowed to be there. it gives you air to breathe and space to feel lighter, better relieVed. WHAT YOU EXPERIENCE MAY BE THERE AND IT DOESN'T HAVE TO GO, BECAUSE YOU ARE OKAY JUST THE WAY YOU ARE WITH EVERYTHING YOU EXPERIENCE IN THIS MOMENT. acceptING the present moment as it is. that is love.

IT IS NOT EASY AND FUCKING BRAVE, TO FEEL ALL YOUR FEELINGS!

there will be days where it might feel difficult or impossible to feel (your) love(d). whenever you feel like you stand alone, find meaning in yourself. do what your soul wants you to do. do you, and let your intentions beat your habits. become unstoppable in showing up, out of love for yourself. recognize that THE suffering OF THE PRESENT TIME is nothing compared to the glory with shall be revealed!

FAILURE, DISAPPOINTMENT, REJECTION, IS INFORMATION AND OPPORTUNITY

To become… A better version of me

ALWAYS SPEAK YOUR TRUTH WITH GRACE AND RESPECT OUT OF LOVE FOR YOURSELF!

YOUR WORTH AND WELL BEING IS NOT DEPENDENT ON SOMEONE ELSE. SO EVEN IF YOUR AFRAID, THAT SOMEONE MIGHT DISAPpROVE OF YOU, LEAVE YOU, OR GET MAD AT YOU. SPEAK YOUR TRUTH!! HONOR YOURSELF, YOU NEED TO TRUST YOURSELF, THAT IS ESSENTIAL. WHEN YOU CAN'T TRUST YOURSELF, WE CAN'T TRUST EACH OTHER, NOTHING WORKS.. DONT BLAME ANOTHER PERSON FOR NOT UNDERSTANDING YOU. WE ARE ALL PEOPLE WITH INNER LIFE CIRCUMSTANCES COMPLEXITY'S AND PATTERNS THAT NEED TO BE HUMANIzED AND APPROACHED WITH CURIOSITY PATIENCE, COMPASSION AND KINDNESS

YOU NEED YOUR OWN LOVE AND APPROVAL TO BE OK, TO SET YOURSELF FREE, TO TRUST YOURSELF FULLY.

TO BE ABLE TO TRUST EACH OTHER, YOU MUST FIRST LEARN HOW TO TRUST YOURSELF. IF YOU FIND IT DIFFICULT TO TRUST YOURSELF NOTICE THE FEELING OF INSECURITY AROUND TRUSTING YOURSELF FULLY. DON'T JUDGE YOURSELF ON YOUR INSECURITY. LET THAT FEELING BE THERE, ASK AND TRUST LOVE INSIDE OF YOU, TO FIX IT FOR YOU. EVEN IF YOU CAN'T FEEL LOVE, MOMENTARILY IT IS IN THE AIR YOU BREATH, ALWAYS THERE.

TO KEEP RELATIONSHIPS SAFE WE NEED TO FEEL CHERISHED, WORTHY WELCOMED AND EMPOWERED

real love starts with you being your full self, every connection starts with the connection with yourself. CONNECT from a place of kindness, generosity, appreciation, warmth, compassion and authentic love. allow yourself to feel full, you have the capacity to feel those feelings in yourself. allow yourself to change to become, knowing that you’re always growing. feel inspired to explOre yourself. learn to grow, to evolve, learn how to love it all!  become more authentic, building resilience by growing a daily practice, of loving yourself more each day.

GROWING TOWARDS TOTAL VICTORY, FEELING FREE, BEING HOPEFULLY. LOVING LIFE AS IT IS. GRACEFULLY LIVING IN THE PRESENT MOMENT. LOVING YOURSELF UNCONDITIONALLY

Do for Love

do for love and become so good that they can’t take their eyes off of you. creating from a place of unconditional love. let go of control, attachments to outcomes. be patient and open to new possibilities. be open to a new you and a new me. with room for insecurities. Where we all know that we don’t know. where the unknown provides us endless love, and room to grow, Halleluja!

YOUR VALUE, WORTH, OR LOVE-ABILITY DOES NOT DEPEND ON ANYTHING

it is a given

New way of wealth

Dressing up by fully BEING myself, vulnerable, open hearted. Finding approval on the INSIDE. Listening more then I’m talking. Seeking first to understand then to be understood. My value does not depend on brands, achievements, job-status, money, (mental) health, education or reputation. I like me, I am desired and seen by myself. I don’t need to compare myself, I don’t need to prove my value, I don’t need to compromise, I don’t need to please, I don’t need to chase, good things will come my way.

I LOVE ME

I AM WORTHY

BY BEING

HEALTHY LOVE CAUSES YOU TO

Flourish in life

Dance like nobody is watching,

COLOR OUTSIDE THE LINES, FEEL ALIVE!

EMBRACE THAT SEXY (MAMA) STRIPPER SIDE

 inside every (wo)man, there is a wild animal

she can be a perfect mother, a lovely wife

but she is in fact, a woman that has all sides

TO FEEL FULLY CONNECTED, VALUED, APPRECIATED,

SHE NEEDS TO BE ABLE TO EXPRESS

Her true erotic Nature

Live in pleasure and desire!

EROTIC ENERGY IS THE SPARKLING MAGIC THAT GIVES REALITY ITS SHINE. FULL HEARTS, BURSTING FORWARD IT MAKES US FEEL ALIVE. 

EROTIC ENERGY HELPS US TO LIVE IN PLEASURE AND DESIRE. A LIFE FORCE OF LOVE, INTIMACY, CONNECTION, LUMINOSITY, RICHNESS, AND EXCITEMENT. ALLOWING OUR TENDERNESS TO CREATE STRENGTH IN WHO WE ARE IN THE WORLD AND IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS FUELING OUR CREATIVITY TO DO WHAT IT IS HERE TO DO: EXPRESSING ITSELF. SEX IS FUNDAMENTALLY SELFISH. TO CONNECT TROUGH MUTUAL SELFISHNESS MAY WELL BE THE ROOT SOURCE FOR DEEP EROTIC BLESSINGS. YOU NEED A SAFE, NON-JUDGE-MENTAL SPACE, TO BREAK THROUGH SHAME, TO BE ABLE TO EXPRESS YOURSELF FULLY, AND FEEL FULLY SEEN AND HEARD. SEXUAL FREEDOM MEANS, THAT YOU DON’T HAVE TO JUSTIFY YOUR SEXUAL PREFERENCES, OR FANTASIES. THAT YOUR ABLE TO EXPRESS YOUR "SEXUAL SELF" FULLY (WITH CONSENT!) IN ANY WAY THAT FEELS RIGHT.

YOU MUST BE ABLE TO TRUST YOURSELF AND EXPERIENCE TRUST IN SEX WITH ANOTHER PERSON TO BE ABLE TO COMPLETELY SURRENDER AND ENJOY A DEEP EROTIC CONNECTION. IT MUST BE SEX FOR YOUR OWN PLEASURE THAT IS THE ONLY WAY AND LEGITIMUS REASON TO HAVE ridiculously GREAT SEX WRAPPED AROUND EACH OTHER GLOWING WITH SATISFACTION ENJOY IT FOR YOUR OWN PLEASURE

take responsibility for your sexuality and start building on your sex-esteem. you are the one with the power to turn you on. 

take some time, close your eyes, visualize, fantasize.. how would you feel if you where good enough, attractive. how do you feel when you feel sexy? how would you feel if you where loved? feel that, there you are! all these feelings are inside of youyou are love(d), sexy and attractive!

WE NEED A GLOBAL OXYTOCIN AND DOPAMINE INCREASE THE BIOLOGICAL ASPECTS OF (FEMALE) ORGASM WHICH LEADS TO DEEPER CONNECTIONS IT BONDS LOVERS, DECREASES STRESS BOOSTS YOUR IMMUUN SYSTEM AND INCREASES MORE GENERAL FEELINGS OF SAFETY AND HAPPINESS

having sex-esteem means being free to embrace and express your authentic self fully. Knowing who you are as a sexual being without being afraid or ashamed of it.

don’t let anybody tell you that your not sexual, broken, abnormal or dysfunctional, not good enough, especially not your own thoughts! you and only you are responsible for feeling sexy and love-able.

attraction is not about the way you look. your energy is what others can feel. if you feel turned on, you feel sexy, you will shine, your attractive.

it is not about trying to meet some ideal of “sexy” it’s about owning your sexyness, know your desires know your body and know how to communicate comfortably

SEX IS FUNDAMENTALLY SELFISH TO CONNECT TROUGH MUTUAL SELFISHNESS MAY WELL BE THE ROOT SOURCE FOR DEEP EROTIC BLESSINGS. YOU NEED A SAFE, NON-JUDGE-MENTAL SPACE TO BREAK THROUGH SHAME TO BE ABLE TO EXPRESS YOURSELF FULLY AND FEEL FULLY SEEN AND HEARD. SEXUAL FREEDOM MEANS THAT YOU DON’T HAVE TO JUSTIFY YOUR SEXUAL PREFERENCES, OR FANTASIES THAT YOUR ABLE TO EXPRESS YOUR "SEXUAL SELF" FULLY (WITH CONSENT!) IN ANY WAY THAT FEELS RIGHT

good sex goes beyond the right technique. it is not about how handsome or sexy you look or the amount of orgasms. it is about being authentic, fully present and deeply connected. most important it is about having pleasure!

connected sex is the ultimate. a physical, psychological, emotional, spiritual, experience.a total surrender to pleasure in the moment. where we see our love reflected as true recognition for our total being. a deep celebration and appreciation for our existence.

WE NEED TO LEARN TO BECOME EROTICALLY AUTHENTIC, THAT MEANS STOPPING THE HARMFUL PATTERN OF DOING THINGS THAT DO NOT FEEL RIGHT TO YOU ON SOME LEVEL BECAUSE YOU WANT TO TAKE CARE OF (or BE LIKED BY) OTHER PEOPLE OR AVOID HURTING THEIR FEELINGS. START HONORING YOUR AUTHENTIC (SEXUAL) SELF!

TIME TO START A RELEVANT INTELLIGENT CONVERSATION ABOUT SEXUAL FEELINGS INSECURITIES NEEDS, EXPECTATIONS AND ABOUT (THE FEMALE) ORGASM WHICH IS VITAL FOR EVERY (WO)MAN (AND COUPLE) ON THIS PLANET AND ROOTS OUR FUNDAMENTAL CAPACITY FOR CONNECTION

express yourself don’t repress yourself. Sex and sexual desire are part of human nature

desire needs mystery! researchers found that both men and woman exhibit less arousal the more frequently they see the same (partner) erotic material. our arousal tends to habituate or lesson over time in response to the same sexual stimulus. so in order to generate excitement in long term relationships we need to mix things up! variety is necessary. we need novel and scenario’s. use the creativity of you erotic mind your fantasy!

ACCORDING TO RESEARCH THE MOST COMMON SEXUAL FANTASIES ARE ABOUT: GROUPSEX, THREESOMES ORAL/ANAL SEX, OR ADDING SEX-TOYS THE DESIRE TO LINK PLEASURE AND PAIN EXPERIMENTING WITH BDSM. DOING SOMETHING TABOO OR FORBIDDEN HAVING GAY SEX, OR HAVING SEX IN PUBLIC. SO, IF YOUR TURNED ON BY ANY OF THESE YOUR IN GOOD COMPANY, YOUR TOTALLY NORMAL, ALL THESE FANTASIES ARE STATISTICALLY COMMON! THE MAJORITY OF WOMAN HAS THE SAME FANTASY’S AS MAN TO FANTASIZE ABOUT SEX AND TO FANTASIZE OFTEN IS HUMAN

TIME TO START A RELEVANT INTELLIGENT CONVERSATION ABOUT SEXUAL FEELINGS INSECURITIES NEEDS, EXPECTATIONS AND ABOUT THE FEMALE ORGASM WHICH IS VITAL FOR EVERY WOMAN (AND COUPLE) ON THIS PLANET AND ROOTS OUR FUNDAMENTAL CAPACITY FOR CONNECTION

The connection a woman has with her pussy

IS KEY TO HOW SHE IS FEELING, IT DETERMINES IF SHE FEELS ATTRACTIVE

WHEN SEEING (YOUR) PUSSY MAKES YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE, KNOW THAT YOUR NOT THE ONLY ONE.. FAKE PORNO-PUSSY MIND-FUCKS AGES OF CULTURAL & FAMILY LIMITATIONS IMPRINTED SHAME INTO YOUR BRAIN. whatever your pussy looks like, whatever the variation is, your pussy is perfectly normal. 

THE CONNECTION A WOMAN HAS WITH HER PUSSY IS THE CORE OF HER SELF-ESTEEM IT IS KEY TO HOW SHE IS FEELING. IT DETERMINES IF SHE FEELS ATTRACTIVE, TO WHAT EXTENT SHE FEELS LIKE HAVING SEX, TO WHAT EXTENT SHE CAN EXPERIENCE SEX AS PLEASANT, AND IF SHE’S ABLE TO REACH AN ORGASM

EVERYTHING WE ARE TAUGHT ABOUT SEX AND INTIMACY SHAPES OUR IDEAS ABOUT SEXUALITY. HISTORY SHOWS YEARS OF TABOO AND CULTURAL SHAME, SO EVERYONE IN OUR MODERN SOCIETY HAS SOME KIND OF SEXUAL TRAUMA. many CULTURAL MESSAGEs are THAT SEXUAL PLEASURE IS BAD, WRONG AND SINFUL..

OUR SEXUAL BLUEPRINT STARTS DEVELOPING IN THE FIRST YEARS OF OUR LIVES. IF YOU SAW YOUR PARENTS ASHAMED OR UNCOMFORTABLE, (AS A YOUNG CHILD) WHEN YOU ASKED ABOUT, OR TOUCHED YOUR GENITALS YOU ALREADY STARTED DEVELOPING some SHAME & DISCONNECTION. KIDS ARE VERY SENSITIVE TO BODY LANGUAGE, THE WAY THAT PARENTS REACT IS ESSENTIAL TO HOW THEIR BRAIN-PATHS GROW.

EVEN THOUGH YOU MIGHT NOT CONSCIOUSLY EXPERIENCED THAT YOU’VE DEVELOPED GUILT OR SHAME, MANY OF US HAVE IT IN SOME WAY. BEING UNCOMFORTABLE NAKED, NOT BEING ABLE TO LOOK AT YOURSELF OR TOUCH YOUR OWN BODY, ASHAMED OF THE SHAPE OF YOUR PUSSY, BEING ASHAMED OF YOUR FANTASIES, OR SEX WITHOUT SOUND, are ALL REMINDERS OF TABOO AROUND SEXUALITY.

The most important

Are those who consider themSelves so important, that they don't consider themselves so important… Those who serve are ♡

LOVE IS THE HIGHEST GOOD

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