HEALTHY LOVE CAUSES YOU TO
Flourish in life
Love & Truth
ARE TO BE HONOURED AND CELEBRATED!
By sharing my wisdom in the form of art, I hope to inspire and motivate in growing Love♡, Becoming, Being, your best and authentic pure Self. And to build on, a sustainable Self-esteem, not build on image or reputation, but on true love and inner peace.
What we are mostly longing for in life, is to feel free and authentic. to be who we are, and to see that reflected, true love!
When the power of Love is bigger
then the love of power
There will Be Peace!
♡
I Care
ABOUT LOVE, PEACE, TRUTH, HUMANITY
JESUS, FATHER SPIRIT AND MOTHER NATURE
Paradise
A “HIGHER PLACE”, YOUR HOLIEST PLACE INSIDE
WHERE THERE IS PEACE AND PROSPERITY
EXCEPTIONAL HAPPINESS AND DELIGHT
SHINING, BLOSSOMING, RADIANT
YOUR EVERLASTING
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
AS THE OVERFLOW
OF SUNLIGHT
Live by the truth
OF ALL THAT IS YOU
Feel inspired to explore yourself
Become more authentic
By building resilience
And growing a daily practice
Of loving yourself more each day
Love is about you being yourself
You are loved and worthy
Not for what you do
but just for Being you.
Destination
A CLEAN YOU
Water is very forgiving
EVERYTHING LIFTS IN WATER
WE WILL
Shine!
Growing towards total victory
Feeling free, full of love
Hopefully. Joyfully. Peacefully
Loving life as it is
Gracefully living
In the present moment
Loving yourself unconditionally
Superpower
TRUST, THE POWER OF LOVE
AND ALWAYS BELIEVE IN MAGIC AND SURPRISES!
Truth Reveals
WHO WE TRULY ARE
WHERE WE NEED TO GO
AND WHAT IS MEANT TO BE
Truth brings us peace,
it sets us free
to be who we want to be
Being true to yourself
keeping it real
is bold and inspiring!
Facing the truth
Don’t let your shame, pride or shyness get in the way, of what it is you truly want, and all that you can be. Lay your truth on the table, look it straight in the eye and pick a seat not a side, we are human family!
We think we know who we are or what we want to be, but a lot of times truth get’s in our way. Sometime’s we lie to ourselves when things get hard. About little and big things, to live up to a certain standard/ image. Sometimes we lie to get what we want. We lie to ourselves hiding insecurities, imperfections, feelings we don’t want to feel, things we don’t want to see. Parts of ourselves that we deny or disapprove of, sometimes we lie to please others.
We lie to ourselves because we want to feel safe, comfortable, afraid of being judged or doing it wrong. Afraid of hurt(ing ourselves or others). Or afraid to discover what’s really going on. Afraid of being alone, holding on to control, afraid of change of the unknown. Truth comes with consequences, painful or joyful. And even when it might hurt, truth will always make us stronger! Facing the truth is not easy but really damn important. it does not serve or help anybody to judge or deny any part of ourselves. repressing is not good for our health. It takes bravery and courage to honor yourself, to speak your truth when others are pressuring you not to. Nothing ever is exactly as it seems, we all have or did things that we are not proud of, or we wish we would have done differently. These experience brought us to where we needed to be and made us into the person that we are today.
FAILURE
DISAPPOINTMENT
REJECTION
IS INFORMATION
AND OPPORTUNITY
To become…
A better version of me
Handcraft to rewrite the rules
the best and most important job, project, artwork you will ever work on
is to Love and trust your true Self
Dear (hu)man, evolve yourself
Feeling all your feelings is hard
But that’s what they’re for
To deepen your
(self)trust and intimacy
And build real connections
To be and feel love(d)
Inner peace, and true satisfaction
When you love yourself
You tap into your own source of truth
Instead of turning to others
For validation and approval
Or second-guessing yourself
You are willing to
Compassionately feel
Your core (painful) feelings
Instead of trying to distract
Or numb yourself from them
You let go of blaming
And you have less of a need
To please, or to turn to
Other unhealthy addictions
Like unhealthy food, drugs
Shopping or alcohol
When you love yourself
You want to take
Good care of yourself
And the other
Feel like a captured butterfly
In the worldwide web of wi-fi
Short for wireless fidelity
The shabby luxury Of constant stimuli
You always want something from me
Hard to control the unstoppable
Inexhaustible message flow
Being extremely sensitive
Makes it hard to live
In the world as it is
No matter how hard i try
Keep staying behind
Overflowed by the sea of unread
Always expecting a reply
Otherwise i’m being unkind
Constant pressure
Driving me insane
Overstimulated, overdosed
Need rehabilitation
Escaping the daily energy drains
Wireless infidelity
nature is where I belong
Peaceful rooted as a tree
To be and feel home
Smell the flowers
Hear the sea
To feel alive
And free
To be
Me
I Am
A lover and a fighter
A warrior, surviver
Strong and sensitive
An example of life
And it’s natural gifts
I’ll have the courage to walk straight
Heal my wounds and fears with faith
I Am bigger then pain, I Am stronger then shame
Sending kisses to rejection in the form of
RESSURECTION
Be kind, Always!
Everybody you meet
Is fighting a battle
That you know nothing about
So try to be kind, gentle
Respectful and carefull
To everybody you meet
And especially
To yourSelf
Love!
Love and compassion
as highest fashion
The everlasting trend
Of emotional independency.
The lifestyle of wearing
A confident loving smile.
Makes you shine
So damn fine
It will last
Till the end of time!
Changing…
the blaming and hating.
It’s time for fashioned, unconditional and marvelous love. Kindness and compassion as highest fashion. The day that humanity learns from it’s violent history all starts with changing the blaming and hating.
Don’t get me wrong, vulnerability is the new strong. So make sure that your fashion contains love and compassion. No matter what you wear, most important will always be, the confidence of your pure loving soul, that’s laying underneath.
Understand your emotional flow, work trough your pain, lose control. Acceptance and forgiveness, the only way, to let go of your worst enemies/ memories.
Might take days, weeks or even years of suffering, but you’ll end up sane. Your priceless personal victory. Accepting loving yourself truly.
I Am
ALL THESE SIDES
The only self
The lonely self
The boring self
The exploring self
The loving self
The sexy self
The playful self
The growing self
The falling in love self
The trying self
The desperate self
The people pleasing self
The wanting to be accepted self
The wanting to be liked self
The wanting to be loved self
The wanting to be seen self
The needy self
The greedy self
The controlling self
The struggling self
The failing self
The hating self
The shaming self
The self hating self
The weird self
The anxious self
The jealous self
The angry self
The insecure self
The story self
The never boring self
The forcing self
The desperate self
The wishing things where different self
The growing self
The facing the truth self
The forgiving self
The compassionate self
The healing self
The accepting self
The surrendering self
The loving again self
The never alone self
The whole self
The leader of all my personality’s self
The living by the truth self
The passionate self
The imaginary self
The trusting self
The creative self
The playful self
The serving self
The praying self
The spiritual self
The following the will of the devine self
The knowing i don’t know self
The faithful self
The humble self
The praising self
The secure self
The loving love self
The flowing self
The natural glowing self
The gracious self
The glorious self
The holy self
The natural self
Love
SILENCE
take some time to Listen to silence, to connect with your true self, listening to your inner voice always helps. keep your spirit high and grow love by being grateful for what you can be grateful for. I recommend jesus for all your needs.
WORK ON YOUR GODESS ATTITUDE
With Grattitude!
It is love that makes our lives so sweet. We celebrate romantic love but it’s actually love in all its forms that makes our lives so beautiful! Sometimes we forget how rich we are, in relatedness and care. Too often we focus on what we have too little of. Wether or not you’re gifted with a lover, you do have or had people that you love(d) and who love you. Please love try to stop scanning for what’s wrong, and focus instead on all that’s right, what is working, what you love and where you can be greatful for. Take a deep breath and take a moment of appreciation and gratitude to celebrate those in your life and the love that you share! Reach out and let them know you love them! Just because… you love! I delight in you, and i am so deeply deeply grateful, for the love we share!
♡
OBEY
All of my gratitude and worship goes to the greatness of what i refer to as the holiness, glory and purity of the great I Am, Jesus, Holy Spirit, Nature, Love
Higher Education
The highest education
Is not on paper, it is life itself.
THE HIGHEST VALIDATION IS NOT MONEY, IT IS LOVE
PriMary Colors
To create a world that includes and unites we need to rise above our survival minds, the primal instincts, animal side of the human mind, that compares and divides, includes and excludes, even in the form of leadership and tribes..
And see that we are all leaders and followers. We are all wisdom keepers and seekers in our own unique experience. Mirroring each-other, reflecting ourselves. We learn and grow from being and accepting both sides.
If we want to grow, we need to collectively rise the low, we are all the parts, inside and outside.
Let’s rise above coming to a state of nature, ours.
TRUE BOOD
195 Countries In this world
We might have Different Nationalities
But no land markes Our heart(s)
We share the same Blood color
Share the same sunlight Breath the same air
We are born on the same Earth (mother) nature
All seeds from the same....
Holy spirit (father)
We are human family
“HUMAN GREATNESS DOES NOT LIE IN WEALTH OR POWER, BUT IN CHARACTER AND GOODNESS”
“How wonderful it is that nobody needs to wait a single moment before starting to improve the world”
"WHOEVER IS HAPPY WILL MAKE OTHERS HAPPY”
“Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands”
“NO ONE HAS EVER BECOME POOR BY GIVING”
“Laugh at everything and forget about everything else! it sounds egotistical but it’s actually the only cure for those suffering from self-pity”
“WHERE THERE’S HOPE THERE’S LIFE, IT FILLS US WITH FRESH COURAGE AND MAKES US STRONG AGAIN”
“In spite of everything I still believe that people are really good at heart”
- Anne Frank
People are people
NOT A SKIN COLOR
You don’t have to have a painters eye
to see we are all multi colored
Nobody is black nobody is white, nude is not a color
Nude are these words coming from a mother
Nude is the truth underneath the visual
within we are all equal
The power of
Being
seen
who
I Am
to me
Beautifull
Irresistible
Shining
Radiant
only when she
Sees herSelf
Supporting each other to Rise!
WE NEED A WORLD THAT IS FUNCTIONAL WITH WIN-WIN SCENARIO’S. WE ARE NOT IN COMPETITION WE’RE IN THIS TOGETHER, SUPPORTING EACH OTHER TO RISE. IF I CAN SEE MYSELF IN YOU AND YOU CAN SEE YOURSELF IN ME, WE WILL BE FREE!
Having a negative opinion about someone is actually saying your afraid of them. Negativity is a form of defense. Attacking (verbal or non-verbal) is showing your insecurity. Violence is weakness. Hurt people hurt people, time to brake the chains of pain, blame and shame. Criticizing separates us, admiration brings us closer together. As we don’t speak out we will stay captive in our pain, blame and shame game. Thinking where the only one, the lonely one..
Loneliness is the absence of being genuinely understood. We need honest and vulnerable conversations, truth behind our comfort-zone. There is no mine, no yours everything is ours. No one is “normal” and we all have triggers. Sometimes it might be hard to understand why something small can be really important to someone, when you don’t understand their history, their viewpoint, it is impossible to have compassion with them. Compassion is what creates connection. Connection creates understanding and healing.
Everybody's emotions make sense from their perspective. When you understand their history, values and beliefs.
We need to validate and respect each others opinion. Opposing viewpoints need clear conversations. We need transparency in all our relations. Some emotions can be hard to have compassion with. Anger, hate and fear might be the most challenging. Anger is based on historic things oppression, exclusion... Wounds not only come from parents, they also come from culture. But bad doesn’t look bad when their is good in it.. Find a fresh perspective. Feel inspired and encouraged to use your scars as a catalyst.
No matter how difficult your past experience have been or currently might be you always have the choice what you do with it. You can choose to stay a victim, or to face whatever it is and turn into something helpful. To overcome your obstacles and inspire others. Please speak out, make a change! Give your pain / shame a function . Sharing is caring, don’t let it be for nothing! It will help others who go trough similar things. Time to connect with compassion and (self)respect. When people talk or share things from their true self, their vulnerable parts, it is healing itself. For you and every other.
Sustainable Self esteem
It is good to bring awareness
To a subject that has
A lot of taboo too it
But without realizing
Influences many of our relationships
How we relate to one another
And the planet
Many people include financial wealth, as superior
honorable, successful Valued, appreciated, luxury
While they exclude financial poverty, as inferior
losers, failures Personal incompetent, nothing
Depending your, or other people's value
On money, job-status, achievements, possessions Social
status, mental health or education
Keeps you stuck in the ratrace
Of (being ashamed) proving and chasing..
Of trying to do anything to belong, to fit in
I am not saying that you are a bad person
For wanting or having (a lot of) money
I try to bring awareness To the fact that our brains
are biased To compare and always wanting more..
And the way society kind of raised us
Is to fix unhappiness with material things
If you don’t have a lot of money
In a way it might feel more challenging
Or difficult to feel worthy
But it is the biggest chance
To change the poverty
And wealth dysfunction
By building a sustainable self-esteem
Not build on image or reputation
But build on unconditional self love
The only true and everlasting form of wealth
If you are really secure with yourself
You don’t need to prove yourself
By showing your wealth
Or needing a lot of possessions
To feel good about yourself
Because you already know
You are worthy and loved
Just for being yourself
What we really really need
Is to rebrand money and value
And to learn how to
Love ourselves
(And the other) unconditional
A love that is sustainable
Let’s become human kind
Everything there is, everything you see Is a reflection of the so called “me” We can only solve issues By bringing light to our “own” dark side. It is trough our inner world that we divide
Where is our greed? How much do we really need? How and based upon what, are we valuing ourselves? Where are we excluding Judging or devaluing people Based upon money, job status, or education?
Where are we rejecting ourselves?
We are growing and influencing Each-other constantly It is a mutual growing proces, It is trough “the other” That we learn about (hidden parts of) ourselves
Where in ourselves Do we want to have the power? Where in ourselves Do we want to control?
Let’s rise above our primal instincts Animal side of the human mind That compares and divides, includes and excludes Even in the form of leadership and tribes. And see that we are all leaders and followers We are all wisdom keepers and seekers In our own unique experience Mirroring each other, reflecting ourselves We learn and grow from being And accepting both sides If we want to grow We need to collectively rise the low
We are all the parts, inside and outside As we take care of the other As a part of ourselves Then how would that work money wise? If we keep excluding people Based upon money People who need help the most We are damaging ourselves Can we acknowledge That having enough money Is a luxury, a privilege, a joy.
Can we take a moment of compassion And think about those Who never experienced that. Can we acknowledge That the constant feeling Of not (having) enough money For food or basic needs. Brings brains into survival state Causing stress, depression Mental health problems, Relationship issues, and social isolation
Let's become human kind And look outside our own boxes And serve in the highest good With love and compassion, as one tribe
See money, as our money, And spread it more equally We can only grow From rising our highs and lows We can only unite By bringing “our own” darkness Into the light
Let’s stop rejecting Neglecting and ignoring People who ask for help Based upon money. It is not a one-sided transfer, It is trough the experience Of “the other” that we grow and learn About “ourselves”
If we want to create a better world We have to acknowledge That by helping other people We are helping ourselves. We all benefit, we grow love. That means a safer world For ourselves and everyone else
Break free
FROM WHAT YOU DON’T NEED
We’re the generation that’s leaded by validation by what’s good or not, ugly or hot. We’d keep comparing, continuously staring at others that we like to be meantime the fashion industry preys on our insecurities. The herd instinct of following the trends endlessly, never seems to end. It’s really important to show we’re the most original constant newness, high speed of trends makes it impossible to stay ahead. So we stay greedy, desperately needy as we keep spending money closet full of clothes, but a new season there’s always a reason, to buy more
“I need new items, to show my wellbeing, to feel good about myself. As they express who i am, identify my style translated as a form of my creativity, originality.”
I need to follow trends to be me? Really?? You are your identity. You’re not born to be always in need, just to be or to show who you are..
And if it’s about being really creative or original then show new outfits without using money. Show a flawless style without actually buying. That’s what I call creative and original
Transform your closet, old fashion into new outfits better for the environment, your wallet and your self-confidence. Create your own trends, be you as you are, there is only one of you, you are original!
Inspire people to make healthy choices
Many brands, companies and commercial campaigns
Are throwing around with words about love, equality,
Self love, authenticity and sustainability, like confetti
But it is not a kindness and not sustainable
To trick and manipulate people into buying things
Targeting and reaching the ones with low self-esteem
That are in need of temporary approval, belonging
The need for meaning, and the need to be seen
Letting people think that buying
A certain thing will solve this
Having campains with slogans about love and authenticity
Without making them aware of their underlying needs
Vulnerabilities and insecurities Is manipulative
And an unhealthy form of control
It is not a kindness
Controlling others, their behavior Into buying certain things
So you and/or the company will get
Something in return, money
Is contributing to damaging ourselves, and the planet
It might give consumers, a momentary feeling of safety, belonging
Excitement, feeling good about themselves
When they bought the new thing
But it is not sustainable
They keep being in need of new material things
This does not bring happiness and joy, in the long run
And it is waisting our planet, day by day
We need to stop caring more
about money and selling products, then about our health
And grow a society, that helps people
To build a sustainable self-esteem
Not build on the amount of money
Possessions, image or/and reputation
A society that teaches us how to love
The idea that we can separate things, seeing business as business
And "work behavior" as something different
Then what you stand for personally
That you can separate it
From values and intention is an illusion
Because everything is connected
Everything you say or do, effects yourself in some way
And the world at large
For people who work in this industry
And don't like this, but see it as part of the job
Or not their responsibility, it actually is
Speaking truth, being true to yourself Is your responsibility
Your truth matters and you can Actually change things!
Being true to yourself is the only way to be loving, to yourself and others
I understand the difficulty, and sense of helplessness that you might have
Especially if it's about huge brands and there is a lot of money involved
Opening the conversation and speaking up requires boldness
Saying no, to things You don't agree with takes courage
The desire to find better solutions to change and grow requires
Trusting yourself, and the unknown
Marketing, the action or business of promoting
And selling products and services
Including market research and advertising
Can be used as a way to mislead people (yourself)
Or as a way more powerful tool
To bring more awareness and inspire people to make healthy choices
When you act out of love for yourself
Loving yourself means, you want to take good care of yourself
You want to heal, grow and build on real love
And inspire people to make healthy loving choices
Instead of harming and damaging anyone else
You want to work and create together
On a healthier sustainable planet, thank you!
isolation & exclusion
Many of us are fixated on work and (job)titles
No social encounter passes
Without the question what we “do”
As if only your job-status
Achievements, educationlevel, titel
(Or relationship-status) counts you in
As a valid and interesting person
Self-esteem measured by performance
Excluding and including people (yourself)
Based upon image, reputation
Reputation is, what people
(Who do not care about us) think of us
It is not poverty or illness that drive us into despair
It is the sense that we don’t mean anything
Outside of what we have been able to achieve
It would be easier if their would be
More openness, respect and compassion
For different perspectives
Sometimes i hear people proudly talking
About making "5k" or "25k"
It might be fun and easy
To talk about money
When it is within your reach
If you have a good income
Often there is a lot of shame
Stigma and judgement involved
When it comes to not being able
To fullfill in basic needs
Or not being able to pay for something
As if it diminishes personal value
Seen as failure instead of
“The reputation” of being someone
You barely hear people talking
Who struggle to fulfill basic needs
Thats why having a basic income
Makes many of us feel ashamed
Inferior, a loser, abnormal
While there are many people
Around the world
Struggeling to fulfill in their basic needs
Like a house, clean water
Or food for their family
The social isolation and exclusion
That many of us experience on a daily basis
Is not being able to pay for basic needs
Like food or going to the dentist
Or having to say no to social events
That you would love to be part of
Like going out, having dinners, party's
In bars or in restaurants
Simply because you cannot afford it
Which leads to feeling excluded
We can’t correctly separate
The real dangers from the false alarms
We worry far too much
About the consequences
Of other people’s view on us
When your having to say no often
Because of your financial status
It can make you having to experience
Judgements like “you should be able
To earn more money, or just work”
Which makes you feel even more inferior
So you try to avoid, to mention that again
Which leads you to withdrawal from friends
Feeling ashamed, misunderstood
Lonely, abnormal
Avoiding conversations, to social isolation
The shame and fear
Of (not being enough or) not having enough
Brings brains into survival-state
We don’t like that about ourselves
Which makes it even worse..
Judging/ shaming ourselves for having anxiety
Or seeing ourselves as abnormal
It becomes a form of self-hatred
Often without realizing
Our low sense of self worth
A brain in anxious survival state
Can’t do logical distinctions
Can’t rank threats accurately
And therefore the body
Is in a constant state of stress, survival, fear
When you have to pay at the supermarket
The worry about if there will be enough money
Can make paying become a survival threat
The constant feeling of extreme danger
An extreme state of anxiety
Makes it difficult to function
Causing sleep-problems, insomnia, depression
Which makes it more difficult to work
Which get’s you stuck in the circle
Of feeling incapable, not being good enough
Self-rejection, more anxiety, repeat...
Many, many people around the world
Are suffering from this
You can make a big difference
Be of great meaning by helping somebody
Or at least not to judge them
If you have enough to provide
Think about providing and helping other people
Instead of buying more material things
Or going on another holiday
Sharing is caring and growing love
It is a form of wealth
Richness, love, joy, luxury!
Your not only helping other people
It will also help yourself
Having meaning, feeling more loved
Choose to “fit in”
by your own healthy standards
So you dont have to “get there”
and live up To a certain image
or the unhealthy standards
Set by the commercial industry
or society
You are already “there”
Here, is where you want to be
Right here right now
in this present moment
You need your (own) love and approval
to set yourSelf free
Please love
Let me inspire you
To speak your truth
Honor yourself
You need to trust yourself
That is essential
If you find it difficult to trust yourself
Notice the feeling of insecurity
Around trusting yourself fully
Don’t judge yourself on your insecurity
Let that feeling be there
Ask and trust love inside of you
To fix it for you
Sometimes it and can be hard
To feel loved right where you are
Know that your always loved
It is in the air you breath
Always there. Your always loved
When life is not so easy
Take it easy on yourself
Breath, love
Life wants you
To be yourself
You are you for a reason
With al your preferences
Allow yourself to be you
Don’t blame another person
For not understanding you
We are all people with
Inner life circumstances
Complexity’s and patterns
That need to be humanized
And lovingly approached with curiosity
Patience, compassion and kindness
You need your own love
And approval to be ok
To trust yourself fully
To be able to trust each other
You need to learn
How to trust yourself
Always speak your truth
With grace and respect
Out of love for yourself
Your worth and well being
Is not dependent
On someone or something else
It is a given
Even when your afraid
That someone might disapprove of you
Leave you, or get mad at you
When you can’t trust yourself
We can’t trust each other, nothing works..
Your value,
worth
or love-ability
does not depend
on anything
It is a given
♡
old way of trust
I’’l make sure
I won’t get hurt again
New way of trust
Outside is inside
There is no way of opening up
Without the possibility of getting hurt
Hurt brings me closer to loving myself
It shows me hidden wounds and scars
The parts in the dark
Empathy becomes the place from where i do right
With love, generosity, patience and kindness
By powerful sharing my heart with those around me
I am open for loving for filling relationships
Open for healing
I Am, Being my best
And will be praying for the rest
I will joyfully accept the love of those
Who see and appreciate my vulnerabilities
And lovingly release those who do not
Without withdrawing my love
Or hiding myself, taking it personally
Or allowing me to push back
I follow what feels good
I trust my joy, my pleasure, my intuition
My gifts and talents
Trust needs patience
Patience is not always easy
In difficult moments
I have a deeper knowing
I choose to be resilient
And fully trust without any condition
My god is bigger then me
God can, and god will
Fix it for me
I am
Here for a reason
Always loved
Thank you JesUS
Loving yourself
Learning how to love yourself
Means giving up control
And accept that others’
Feelings and behavior
Have and did have
Nothing to do with you
When you learn
How to love yourself
You will finally let go
Of wanting to know why
Someone behaved
In a certain way
Control and shame
Are intricately tied together
Give up your attachment to control
Means giving up checking
Whatever it is that
You or someone else
Might “did wrong”
Or scanning for reasons
And ways to defend yourself
Opening up to learning
About yourself, and others
Will block the cycle of shame
And make space for healing
To be possible
Forgive yourself and others
For unloving behavior
Things that hurt you
Or might have hurt
Someone else (in the past)
And choose
Forgiveness and compassion
Towards yourself and others
Out of love for yourself
You stop taking
Things personally
Because you see
That you are not in control
Of how others
Think, feel, or behave
Everybody has a free will
The next time you feel yourself
Sinking into a dark mood
Because of a disappointment
Or someone’s unkind words or actions
Ask yourself, how is this serving me?
How can I be more loving
To myself in this situation?
What am I telling myself about myself
That is making this feel worse?
How can this be a good thing?
ALWAYS SPEAK YOUR TRUTH WITH GRACE AND RESPECT OUT OF LOVE FOR YOURSELF!
Your worth and well being is not dependent on someone else. So even if your afraid, that someone might disapprove of you, leave you, or get mad at you. Speak your truth!! Honor yourself, you need to trust yourself, that is essential. When you can’t trust yourself, we can’t trust each other, nothing works.. Dont blame another person for not understanding you. We are all people with inner life circumstances complexity’s and patterns that need to be humanized and approached with curiosity patience, compassion and kindness
You need your own love and approval to be ok, to set yourself free, to trust yourself fully.
To be able to trust each other, you must first learn how to trust yourself. If you find it difficult to trust yourself notice the feeling of insecurity around trusting yourself fully. Don’t judge yourself on your insecurity. Let that feeling be there, ask and trust love inside of you, to fix it for you. Even if you can’t feel love, momentarily it is in the air you breath, always there.
TO KEEP RELATIONSHIPS SAFE WE NEED TO FEEL CHERISHED, WORTHY WELCOMED AND EMPOWERED
real love starts with you being your full self, every connection starts with the connection with yourself. CONNECT from a place of kindness, generosity, appreciation, warmth, compassion and authentic love. allow yourself to feel full, you have the capacity to feel those feelings in yourself. allow yourself to change to become, knowing that you’re always growing. feel inspired to explOre yourself. learn to grow, to evolve, learn how to love it all! become more authentic, building resilience by growing a daily practice, of loving yourself more each day.
Growing towards total victory, feeling free, being hopefully. loving life as it is. gracefully living in the present moment.
To be resilient
It is not easy
And fucking brave
To feel all your feelings
There will be days
Where it might feel
Difficult or impossible
To feel (your) love(d)
Whenever your triggered
Overwhelmed by emotion
Feel disappointed
rejected, numb
Or paralyzed by fear
Choose to be resilient
Try not to fix the feeling
But bring curiosity to it
And welcome whatever it is
That you are feeling
Accept the present moment
As it comes, that is love
Whenever your triggered
Or having anxiety try to focus
On pleasurable sensations in your body
Expand your inner trust from there
You don't have to heal fully
Before you can be happy
A part of you is always free
Wealth
Old way of wealth
Dressing up
Wearing brands
That represent
Show how wealthy
And fashionable I am
An outside version of me
That hides my vulnerabilities
Working from achievement
To achievement
To get a better income
While my income is growing
My money-flow grows
I spent more and more on “luxery”
Bigger cars, houses, holidays
While i keep being in need
Of getting more
Talking about my achievements
And cool stuff that I've done
In need of compliments
On my style, possessions
Achievements, titles, approval
Need to be seen by others
(Be better then others)
To feel good about myself
Needing to be “someone”
By proving my wealth
And constantly
Comparing myself
The emotional poverty
Of constantly being in need
Of compliments
Approval
Possessions
Money
Status
Reputation
New way of wealth
Dressing up
By fully being myself
Vulnerable, open hearted
Finding approval on the inside
Listening more then I'm talking
Seeking first to understand
Then to be understood
My value does not depend
On brands
Achievements
Job-status
Money
(Menthal) health
Social status
Education
Or reputation
I Am
Desired
And seen
By myself
I don't need
To compare myself
I don’t need to
To prove my value
I don't need
To compromise
I don't need
To please
I don’t need
To compete
I like me
I Am
worthy
By Being
♡
Real luxury is about love and (inner)peace
(MENTAL) HEALTH, BEING PROVIDED IN BASIC NEEDS, FEELING AND CONNECTION
The luxury of basic needs
I’M LONGING FOR THE LUXURY OF SIMPLICITY AND PURITY
The luxury of basic needs and a fair industry
I wish there was a supermarket with only healthy products, that was not about making as much money as possible but about serving out of love, for people, farmers, nature, our planet. With foods and goods that you cam trust, and a fair pricing. Pure natural ingredients, 100% healthy and trustworthy. instead of 80 brands and different packages to choose from a max of 2 variations. So good, that it does not need any commercials to convince us, because it serves out of love
Sharing Love is the greatest gift.
THE MOST FULFILLING THING IS TRUE LOVE AND (INNER) PEACE
New way of wealth
The New way of wealth
Is dressing up, by fully being myself
Vulnerable, open hearted
Finding approval on the inside
Listening more then i’m talking
Seeking first to understand
Then to be understood
My value does not depend on brands
Achievements, job-status, money
(Mental) health, education or reputation
I like me, I Am, desired and seen by myself
I don’t need to compare myself
I don’t need to prove my value
I don’t need to compromise
I don’t need to please
I don’t need to chase
Good things will come my way
I LOVE ME
I AM WORTHY
BY BEING
Deserve to receive
My responsibility is
To prioritize self care
Being true to myself
To know what I need
Sourcing my value
From deep within
Where I can find
A deep sense of safety
I am love(d)
I compete
Only with myself
Every day is
A challenge to rise
Continuously becoming
Evolving into
The best me
I can possibly be
With an enormous
Dose of resilience
Patience, vulnerability, humor
Strength and self-confidence
I keep loving myself
Trough triggers, insecurities
Sensitivities and uncertainties
I don't need to
Fix please or prove
I know my value
I don't need to compensate
I don't need to chase
Good things
Will come my way
I am completely worthy
Of anything I long for
And the most exciting
Wonderful loving things
That i can possibly imagine
I know who I am
As a (sexual) being
I deserve love
It is my birthright
I need to ask for what I want
I need to ask for what I need
And follow what feels right
I trust that other people
Care about my needs
I deserve to be treated well
I deserve to be me
I deserve to receive
Your a Soul with a body
NOT A BODY WITH A SOUL
RIGHT FROM THE START YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN
A pure work of art!
it is a shame that we shame, making ourselves small. comparing (parts of) our body’s makes no sense, cause all we ever have is our own body. trough this body you are here you can feel you can be, you have meaning.
you might not like (parts of) the shape of your body, of what you have heard in the past that conditioned you to think, it should be differently. Choose to stop living up to a certain body-standard and start being yourself. you would not tell a friend that he/she is ugly or not good enough. please love, stop doing that to (parts of) yourself.
When you experiencing difficult thoughts, feelings or sensations. Try to give yourSelf the advice you would give to a close friend. Start seeing and treating your body as your best friend. Look yourSelf in the eye and give yourself some friendly advice.
Think of all the amazing things that your body provides you with. Focus on the feeling of pleasurable sensations. See yourself as a work of art every line, wrinkle, spot or detail of you, is exactly the way you are supposed to be.right from the start you have always been a pure work of art!
Take some time close your eyes and visualize. How would you feel, if you where good enough, attractive. How do you feel when you feel sexy? How would you feel if you where loved?
Feel that, there you are! All the feelings are inside of you. You are sexy and attractive! You are love(d)
Beauty, there is no temporary part…
Beauty comes from the heart.
Beauty lies inside of you
Beauty is when you speak your truth
Beauty does not change with age, what changes are “our own” expectations, judgmental and surreal validations. Many of us are so desperate to be accepted, so afraid of rejection, that they are willing to do “everything” to fit into the unfit-table norm of “perfection”. Some of us are willing to pay lots of money, to operate, cut in healthy body’s fill it up with silicones, botox, easily go through a lot of pain, to get bigger lips, ass or tits in exchange, even risking their own existence.
Please love, don’t let your mind be infected by negative validations rejections, projections. Make sure your thoughts are defeated and no longer leaded by another’s norm of attraction. See wrinkles as a positive sign of experience and wisdom. If the insecurity stayed over the years, it is time to face your inner fears acceptance starts with the love inside, instead of all this suffering the healthy everlasting solution is in your mind, no operation needed when you feed it
Meditate, rehabilitate, feed your soul, there is nothing wrong with the way you were born. Not perfect or imperfect. You are who you are, beautiful and always worth it
Art is
FREEDOM
OF EXPRESSION
CREATION
HOLY TRANSLATION
OF ALL THAT IS COMING
TRUE (TROUGH) ME
ART KNOWS…
NO STYLE OR FORM
NO RIGHT OR WRONG
NO BOUNDARIES NO NORM
ART IS
Love
IN THIS MOMENT
Real Love
STARTS WITH BEING MYSELF
I have the power to create change
I will be the best me, I can possibly be
I have unique gifts to bring to this world
My voice is being heard
I am proud of all
That my body does for me today
I nourish every part of my being
Loving every part of me
I am free, I am strong
I am beautiful, I am enough
I am playful, I am sexy
I am worthy, I am grateful
I am love(d)
Today is my day
I am free of pain
Today I will shine
FEARLESSLY
I Rise!
♡
Bloom
YOUR DEVINE UNIFORM
WITH THE POWER OF A BLOSSOMING FLOWER
Your like art a creation,
holy translation,
pure nature
in human form
Be in your body
as the masterpiece
your supposed to be
Wear it with pride
no need to be shy
Love yourself totally
Because realness
can never be ugly
HAUTE COUTURE
IS YOUR OWN CREATION
EXCLUSIVE CUSTOM-FITTED NATURE
100% BIOLOGICAL PURE AND STRONG
MY PURE NAKED BODY, MY UNIFORM
Dance like nobody is watching,
COLOR OUTSIDE THE LINES, FEEL ALIVE!
EMBRACE THAT SEXY (MAMA) STRIPPER SIDE
Inside every (wo)man, there is a wild animal
she can be a perfect mother, a lovely wife
but she is in fact, a woman that has all sides
To feel fully connected, valued, appreciated
SHE NEEDS TO BE ABLE TO EXPRESS
Her true erotic Nature
Live in pleasure and desire!
Erotic energy is
The sparkling magic
That gives reality
its shine
Full hearts
bursting forward
It makes us
feel alive!
Erotic energy helps us
To live in pleasure and desire
A life force of love
Intimacy, connection, luminosity
Richness And excitement
Allowing our tenderness
To create strength
In who we are in the world
And in our relationships
Fueling our creativity to do
What it is here to do:
Expressing itself!
Sex is sacred and Selfish
To connect trough mutual Selfishness
May well be the root source
For deep erotic blessings
Sexual freedom means
That you don’t have to Justify
Your sexual preferences, or fantasies
That your able to express (With consent!)
Your “sexual self” fully
In any way that feels right
The best environment
Is a non-judge-mental, safe space
So you can feel safe enough
To be real and to be true
Nothing better then being met
In your fullest expression
Safe to be yourself
Allowing yourself
To express yourself fully
While being in connection
With your lover
The raw realness
Of fully expressing yourself
Being welcomed, honored
Appreciated and loved
For being yourself
That is true love
Grow sex-esteem
Dear love, don’t let anybody tell you that your not sexual, broken, abnormal or dysfunctional, not good enough, especially not your own thoughts! Take some time, close your eyes, visualize, fantasize.. How would you feel if you where good enough, attractive. how do you feel when you feel sexy? How would you feel if you where loved? feel that, there you are! all these feelings are inside of you, you are love(d), sexy and attractive!
Start building on your sex-esteem. You are the one with the power to turn you on!
We need to learn to become erotically authentic, that means stopping the harmful pattern of doing things that do not feel right to you on some level Start honoring your authentic (sexual) Self Love! You are not here to be someone else’s idea of what is erotically or sexy, or to express a false version of yourself. Because it pleases Someone else... Please love Be your amazing Self! Thats what you are here for.
Having sex-esteem means being free to embrace and express your authentic self fully. Knowing who you are as a sexual being without being afraid or ashamed of it.
Time to start a relevant intelligent conversation about sexual feelings insecurities needs, expectations and about the female orgasm which is vital for every woman (and couple) on this planet and roots our fundamental capacity for connection
Attraction is not about the way you look. your energy is what others can feel. if you feel turned on, you feel sexy, you will shine, your attractive.
it is not about trying to meet some ideal of “sexy” it’s about owning your sexyness, know your desires know your body and know how to communicate comfortably
Good sex goes beyond the right technique. it is not about how handsome or sexy you look or the amount of orgasms. it is about being authentic, fully present and deeply connected. most important it is about having pleasure!
Connected sex is the ultimate. a physical, psychological, emotional, spiritual, experience.a total surrender to pleasure in the moment. where we see our love reflected as true recognition for our total being. a deep celebration and appreciation for our existence.
We need a global oxytocin and dopamine increase. The biological aspects of (female) orgasm. Which leads to deeper connections. It bonds lovers, decreases stress, Boosts your immuun system and increases more general feelings of safety and happiness
Express yourself don’t repress yourself. Sex and sexual desire are part of human nature
Desire needs mystery! researchers found that both men and woman exhibit less arousal the more frequently they see the same (partner) erotic material.Our arousal tends to habituate or lesson over time in response to the same sexual stimulus. so in order to generate excitement in long term relationships we need to mix things up! Variety is necessary. we need novel and scenario’s. use the creativity of you erotic mind your fantasy!
According to research the most common sexual fantasies are about: groupsex, threesomes oral/anal sex, or adding sex-toys the desire to link pleasure and pain experimenting with bdsm. Doing something taboo or forbidden having gay sex, or having sex in public. So, if your turned on by any of these your in good company, your totally normal, all these fantasies are statistically common! The majority of woman has the same fantasy’s as man to fantasize about sex and to fantasize often is human
The connection a woman has with her pussy
IS KEY TO HOW SHE IS FEELING, IT DETERMINES IF SHE FEELS ATTRACTIVE
When seeing (your) pussy
Makes you feel uncomfortable
Know that your not the only one!
Fake porno-pussy mind-fucks
Ages of cultural & family limitations
Imprinted shame into your brain
Our sexual blueprint
Starts developing
In the first years of our lives
If you saw your parents
Ashamed or uncomfortable
(As a young child)
When you asked about
Or touched your genitals
You already started developing
Shame & disconnection
Kids are very sensitive
To body language
The way that parents react
Is essential to how
Their brain-paths grow
Everything we are taught
About sex and intimacy
Shapes our ideas about sexuality
History shows years
Of taboo and cultural shame
So everyone in our modern society
Has some kind of sexual trauma
The cultural message is
That sexual pleasure is
Bad, wrong and sinful..
The sum of cultural
And family limitations
Turn the (female) body
Into a gathering place
Of countless taboos and fears
Even though you might
Not consciously experienced
That you’ve developed guilt or shame
Many of us have it in some way
Being uncomfortable naked
Not being able to look at yourself
Or touch your own body
Ashamed of the shape of your pussy
Being ashamed of your fantasies
Or sex without sound
All reminders of taboo
Around sexuality
Those who serve
are ♡
LOVE IS THE HIGHEST GOOD
The most
important
Are those who consider themSelves so important that they don't consider themselves so important…
Life Shines!
Exhibition
Lilo tHE ART show(s)
ART & POETRY ABOUT LOVE, GROUNDBREAKING RESILIENCE, SUSTAINABLE SELF-ESTEEM, REAL BEAUTY AND BUILDING SEX-ESTEEM
Lilo, the art shows is about learning how to love yourself trough the obstacles of life, about building a sustainable self-esteem. It is an autonomous initiative that arose from the need to transform her scars into strength and something helpful and functional. The need for connection, love and compassion, authenticity and the wealth of feeling and connection. An attempt to make us aware and to reconnect with our (deepest) feelings, to let us look inside and to regain our freedom. And to reconnect with each other in real life.
UNBOXABLE KINSTUGI ART
LILO plays with boundaries, perspectives and techniques. art that literally and figuratively does not fit into a box. A raw but refined mix of poems, pencil drawings, painting, photography and illustration. Some of her work has been inspired by "Kintsugi, the Golden Repair" A Japanese technique in which broken pottery is repaired with gold. Scars are not hidden away, but a precious part of an object's history. It contains the memories of what once was and what was endured, it stands for groundbreaking resilience and beauty.
Contact
EMAIL: info@lilotheartshows.com
NH, 1072 KV Amsterdam, Netherlands